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Bystander Intervention

Overview
Bystander intervention is both an active and passive activity. Proactive bystander intervention can be learning about dating violence so when friends reach out for help, you know something about it and the resources available. It can be checking in with friends before/during/after a party to create a community of care. Reactive bystander intervention can be saying “that’s not ok” when someone makes a joke about sexual assault; or using social media to down-vote a sexual assault myth or predatory remark/behavior. No one has to do everything but everyone has to do something. All small steps are steps in the right direction. Find a way to make a difference in our culture – support your friends, know resources, decide as a group we don’t accept these behaviors.
Training
Bystander Intervention is a 2 hour training that can be done in 2 one hour workshops or combined in a two hour workshop. The first hour looks at the social culture at Tufts focusing on perceptions versus facts; what social rules are in place; and hook up culture. The second session focuses on what we can do to be better friends and members of Tufts community. What options do I have if I am shy or scared to intervene? We review the 3 categories of responses that actively work to change our community.

Healthy Relationships

Talking about healthy and unhealthy examples of relationships helps us learn what we want and what to avoid. Focusing on pressures, patterns and the emotional landscape of relationships, we discuss a variety of personal and societal issues that construct our relationships. One hour workshop.

Culture

No student identifies as a rapist but many students talk about behaviors that constitute rape and sexual assault. We have a community that allows those same people to believe their  behaviors and actions are normal, social acceptable and hurt no one. Focusing on Tufts campus: what signs do we see every day that promote a culture of sexual misconduct on our campus. One hour workshop.

Sex Health Workshops

We Offer:

  • Sex in the Dark: This is a program to answer any and all question about sex and sexual health by a panel of Sexperts.  The lights will be low and the room set to glow in neon.  Most questions will be submitted prior to the event so they can be answered anonymously, but there will be multiple opportunity for people to either ask questions or write them down to be answered during the program.
  • Empower Your Sex Life: This program is dedicating to creating a safe environment to dialog about healthy sexuality and sexual relations. It has been created so attendees feel empowered to start defining what they want to get out of their sex lives.
  • Sex Toy 101: Have you ever wondered what sex toys are out there? Or what toys are better for different people? This workshop is dedicated to increasing the knowledge about sex toys.  We will discuss which ones are safe to use, whether they can be used for couples or individuals (or both!), and why someone would want to use them. This has been designed as a safe space for everyone involved.
  • Ethical Sex: Every person on this planet is a sexual being. So, how do our values influence our sex lives? What role does society and the media have in promoting a specific sexual outcome? How do we reconcile our sexual selves with many contradictory statements and beliefs about sex? This program will be a safe space to work through these question and more.
Communication, Consent and Conversation
Conversation skills are so important in every aspect of life and certainly true in relationships. Workshop focuses on where we get stuck, learning skills, handling silence, asking for consent, understanding body language and being ok with awkward conversations. One hour workshop
Hook up Culture
Who is doing it and why do we care? Is everyone having fun? What are the rules? Can I text the next day? What if I catch “the feels” In this workshop, we examine the hook up culture focusing on published studies, popular media and advice of Tufts students. One hour workshop.