Bystander intervention is both an active and passive activity. Proactive bystander intervention can be learning about dating violence so when friends reach out for help, you know something about it and the resources available. It can be checking in with friends before/during/after a party to create a community of care. Reactive bystander intervention can be saying “that’s not ok” when someone makes a joke about sexual assault; or using social media to down-vote a sexual assault myth or predatory remark/behavior. No one has to do everything but everyone has to do something. All small steps are steps in the right direction. Find a way to make a difference in our culture – support your friends, know resources, decide as a group we don’t accept these behaviors.
Bystander Intervention is a 2 hour training that can be done in 2 one hour workshops or combined in a two hour workshop. The first hour looks at the social culture at Tufts focusing on perceptions versus facts; what social rules are in place; and hook up culture. The second session focuses on what we can do to be better friends and members of Tufts community. What options do I have if I am shy or scared to intervene? We review the 3 categories of responses that actively work to change our community.
Talking about healthy and unhealthy examples of relationships helps us learn what we want and what to avoid. Focusing on pressures, patterns and the emotional landscape of relationships, we discuss a variety of personal and societal issues that construct our relationships. One hour workshop.
No student identifies as a rapist but many students talk about behaviors that constitute rape and sexual assault. We have a community that allows those same people to believe their behaviors and actions are normal, social acceptable and hurt no one. Focusing on Tufts campus: what signs do we see every day that promote a culture of sexual misconduct on our campus. One hour workshop.